1/26/2015

Why I Didn't Do This With My Last Kid

I've been a mom since I was sixteen. I have been a primary female figure in my step-son's life since then. We have been guiding forces in each other's lives since before his second birthday.
Growing As A Parent

Seven years and two more kids later, and I'm stunned that people (my husband even) are surprised that I'm not the same parent I once was.

My husband has said, "Well we didn't do that with this kid" or "No, we always made this kid do this."

My friends have said, "Why did you do that stuff with your last kid?"  (By "that stuff" they, of course, mean baby wearing, baby led weaning, and displays of breastfeeding pride.)

I, by no means, am a perfect parent.  Honestly, such a thing doesn't exist.  However, I do try to always be a better parent than I was the day before.  Every day presents us with new opportunities.  New choices.  Each new day provides us the opportunity to improve ourselves.

Parenting As I Grow Up
Me & my (now) 8 year old when we were both just
little squirts.
Being the best parent I can be is important to me.  Sometimes, oftentimes, there's a struggle between the parent I once was or that I am and the parent I want to be.

Quite simply, the reason I didn't do some of the things I'm doing now with my two boys is because I didn't know about them.  I had no idea about baby wearing or baby led weaning before I had Luna.

I did breastfeed Gabriel for his first few months, but then I exclusively pumped until he was 1 year old (another taboo parenting choice of mine).  Cloth diapers?  Ha!  I would have thought you meant safety pinned cloth, not modern day cloth.

Not only do our children grow, but we grow as parents, too!  It's okay to learn new things, to be better, to do things different, to change.  Each child we have and every child is unique.  It's crazy to think that two different children, even with the same parents, should have the exact same experiences as each other.

Every child deserves an individualized response.  Every child deserves a parent who wants to be the best they can be; a parent who is willing to learn, grow, and be better.

Did you do things differently after your first child?  How has your parenting style or choices changed as your child or children have grown?

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1/07/2015

2015 in 2015

Who has too much stuff? Raise your hand! If you're like me, you're flailing around and jumping up and down because you have loads of junk clogging up your happy space and home.

The 2015 in 2015 challenge is about clearing out 2015 items throughout this New Year.

Think you can do it?  I think you can!

Now, maybe you've heard of this challenge or something similar.  I ran into it a time or time while getting sucked into the big time waste that is the internet.  Some people are having an "empties" challenge, where they focus on emptying or using up goods, along with throwing out junk.

I say, whatever works for you!  I'm going to focus on decluttering my life by participating in the 2015 in 2015 challenge.  I'm going to make it a priority to clear out a minimum of 2015 items this year that are just junking up my life.

Are you with me?  Great!

I'm going to post periodic updates about my progress and what I've thrown away and how I'm progressing toward my 2015 items.  Luckily, I've already started!

2015 in 2015 Progress

  1. All Christmas string lights
  2. Lots of extra junk Christmas tree decorations
  3. A shirt of mine that I bought, then hated, but didn't want to through away because I hardly wore it.  Buyer's remorse much?
There you have it.  Week one and I have three items on my throw out list.
2015-3=2012 items to go!

Did you know, you could also donate your unused or unwanted items and they still count toward your 2015 items!  See, you can be generous and declutter.

Now, if only I can get my husband on board so he'll downsize from 1000 t-shirts to, maybe, 500!

Are you participating in the 2015 in 2015 challenge?  What is cluttering up your life, right now?


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1/04/2015

2015

Holy macaroni!  It's 2015!  I know that I've been MIA since November-ish, but I haven't given up on Moming About!  I am here, and I'm ready to welcome the New Year with a vigor 100 times that of before.  This year is about realizing my own aspirations and dreams and attacking them head on.

That's right, the New Year also means I'm one year older!  Did you know, I'm a New Years baby?  Easiest birthday ever, so you have no choice but to remember it.  It's also been a year since I started regularly blogging here at Moming About.

Reviewing my goals from last year, I feel like there's much room for improvement.

10 Goals for 2014 Review


  1. Choose between the two four year colleges I want to transfer to. Chosen.
  2. Acquire a certification before transferring to said four year college. No longer valid, but I have all the credits for my AGS.
  3. Apply to be a substitute teacher for the 2014-2015 school year. Done.
  4. Give birth to a healthy baby girl. YEP!
  5. Repaint the interior of the house. We painted the living room, boys room, and nursery.
  6. Do some DIY projects! Not much, but I did like the shower organization DIY!
  7. Start crafting for fun and for monetary gain (currently wanting to try metal stamping, polymer clay jewelry, felt stuffed animals, and/or other jewelry projects). No.
  8. Post at least three times a week on the blog (M,W,F). Sometimes.
  9. Commit 1 hour to my blog each day, whether writing for the blog, writing comments, or simply doing research/brain storming, etc. Not regularly.
  10. Find a good balance for it all; family, fun, work, marriage, etc. Still working on it.
Last year we had snow today, and it's coming down pretty hard right now, so not much is different there!  
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My husband hit a deer on New Years Eve (no snow, just a deer in the road), so I'm very sad about that. He is fine, which is great, and he brought me flowers, so that was nice, right?

The kiddos have all been sick since around Christmas Eve.  Double ear infections and bronchitis galore.  I had a touch of it over the weekend, but I'm feeling better today.

So New Years wasn't anything exciting, with a house full of sick kids.  However, I did actually take some time off from my day job which was nice.

How was your New Years?

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11/17/2014

Free Social Media Marketing Schedule

Today, I figured I'd share with you my goal social media sharing schedule.  I'm not going to say that I hit target every day or week, but these are the times that I aim to have shares scheduled to my social media platforms.

Most of the share times are based on information found online about prime sharing times with a few randoms thrown in for test purposes and thoroughness.  Feel free to experiment, but I know for me it helps to have a checklist.


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11/10/2014

My Four Day Facebook Unplug

I'm in a lot of Facebook groups. A lot! In one of my groups, someone brought up unplugging from Facebook for a few days. They mentioned all the time Facebook distractions took away from other things in their life, things that are actually important, especially our kids and family.
This really made sense to me, because Facebook is, admittedly, my biggest time suck. I'm always scrolling through, getting sucked up in all the pointless status updates, liking "cool" stuff, and catchy headlines like "15 celebrities who are now broke". Really, it's pathetic.

It distracts me from my schoolwork, family, housework, etc. It's just so easy to get sucked in.

So, I decided I was going to unplug too. Thursday to Sunday, I logged out of Facebook on my phone and computer. And you know what?

It was pretty great.

I'd like to say that I spent that time being super productive and accomplishing all these things I was missing out on before, but that would probably be a lie.

Thursday I watched a few hours of The Vampire Diaries with my husband. Friday I substitute taught Kindergarten, had some transmission work done on our SUV, and had my first drop (or two or three) or alcohol in over a year. Saturday I folded tons of laundry and watched waaaay too much The Fosters. Sunday I pulled out my stove and fridge out and swept/mopped. Something I haven't done in like...ever?

Okay, okay. So, there wasn't a big epiphany. My life didn't suddenly turn to unicorns and fairy dust. But... Facebook didn't implode without my presence, either. To be honest, it felt good to be disconnected for a few days. Like everyone else, I fall victim to wasting minutes turned to hours on Facebook doing nothing. I'm hoping this experience will help me be more tuned in to how I'm spending my time.

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