As I get more pregnant, people get more loose lipped and brazen with their assumptions, comments, and so-called jokes. I am just shy of 39 weeks pregnant when writing this, so it’s quite obvious that I’m pregnant. I get that.
And I don’t mind the polite questions or conversation, even if it is repetitive and I’ve already had this same conversation with 5 million other people. Or the fact that I’m a surrogate and some of the questions (well, a lot of the questions) don’t even really apply to me. However, I don’t want to have to explain being a surrogate to every. single. person.
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In case you’re wondering, it’s really not that cute or funny when you’ve heard something like, “Wow, you look like you need another one” for the third time in a day.
I’d also like to make a PSA that any of these types of comments are not appreciated either:
You need the lay off the cheeseburgers.Are you serious right now? This isn’t appropriate to say to anyone. Ever. It’s just rude. I get that you’re just acknowledging my obvious pregnancy, but I could definitely do without the acknowledgement if this is how it’s going to be done.
You’re not suppose to swallow the watermelon seeds.My intense eye rolling cannot be conveyed appropriately through a blog post, but I’ve heard about 100 too many watermelon related jokes. Or basketball references. It’s really not that cute.
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There’s something wrong with the water here.Believe it or not, we (the pregnant ladies) are not all congregating around you on purpose. Just because there are two of us in the same county, doesn’t mean you have to go on and on about the quantity of pregnant women in the area.
You haven’t had that baby yet?No. Thanks, though, for pointing out that I’m still pregnant. I didn’t notice myself.
Any comments about my size/baby’s size.Oh you think baby is going to be huge? Oh you think I’m huge. Well, I surely appreciate your unnecessary assessment.
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Try this instead…Okay, so once when walking through the grocery story, a young woman passing me by simply smiled and told me, “Congratulations.” I don’t know if it was because I was 30+ weeks pregnant or what, but I felt like that was the sweetest, simplest gesture anyone could make. I didn’t get hounded with questions by a (well meaning, I’m sure) stranger. She just simply congratulated me and I kind of wanted to hug her.
I think it’s important to remember that we are pregnant for 40 (sometimes very long and miserable) weeks. Our hormones can be crazy. Our emotional state may be questionable. And it can get really outrageous with all the comments, questions, and so on from friends, family, and complete strangers. Instead of cracking a joke, try a kind and simple gesture. If you’re close to the person, offer a hand.